Martial issues. Gives silent treatment.

Me and my husband has problems. I feel my husband is of controlling nature. he restricts visiting my parents, cant accept my "no" to visiting his place even it is for one or two times. he keeps in mind of every situation like i denied sex on second day of marriage and he wont ask for sex even after 2.5 years of marriage. Like this he does tit-for-tat for all the problems. I shouldn't say him anything even if its a joke, like "this s my coffee mug", but he goes on and insult me and hurt me. if i buy something for myself like a simple clay pot, his ego s triggered and he gives silent treatment. I still love him and its hard for me to separate. I am a working women and he don't like my independence and wants me to leave job and his too and want to go to hometown to do provision store business his dad does. I dint like this idea too.