I m married for more than 2 n half year and I m not happy with my husband. For the first 6 months it was good. We enjoyed but I saw him saying no for love making always. I have tried each everything from articles in net to make our sexual life interesting but in vain. I have sexual desire and sometimes I really want to do bt he says straight NO. Whenever he is in mood he will do. Sometimes he turns me on n den denies to do. I have been suffering from 2 years. My husband works from morning 7 to nite 11. He is very busy with his work. He has lot of work related tension but I want to know is this the reason he is not doing. His ignorance hurts me so thought of working so that I will also get busy n will stop thinking. I manage home n office both we don't have kids. I have asked him clearly y u behaving like dis he says work load but in vacation also no sex. Wat should I do. should I fulfill it outside marriage.???
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Madam,
Definitely you problems in your personality,
May also have anxiety and paranoid towards your husband
Some females like this complaints may think "if not with me...with anybody else?"
You may not have the above thought
"Sexual intimacy alright during first six months ,then slowly reduced frequency "
Is universal . If he is maintaining same intimacy throughout from marriage to till date, then only he may need psychology or sexology help.
Please understand...
He is your life partner
Not a sex partner
Sex is one aspect of marriage life among hundreds of many other aspects.
You should not directly confronted him "Why not intimate like before?" It will cause performance anxiety to males.
Sex should be happen spontaneously like breathing, heart beat, digestion after few months of successful intercourse and love making. If he tried compulsory for your sake in long run.....his love and faith slowly vanish over the time.
Concentrate on childbearing, and growing that child
Mostly you need some medications minimum for the period of 9months
Consult a Psychiatrist
Not psychologist or half baked sexologist
Hello there.
I can understand your concern.
We cannot say for sure if its because of stress that he is inactive sexually or something else.
Ask him to take a day off and talk it out with him.
We cannot suggest you to cheat on him even if he was cheating on you.
So fulfilling your desires outside of your marriage is not really something on which we would comment. You can contact me directly so that i can try to help you better. Or
You can take him to a psychiatrist in person for further evaluation and management.
Best regards.
Dr. Anil kumar jain.
Bangalore.
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