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Trauma due to ex
There was one girl in my life but she was committed to someone else. She didn't broke up with him but gave me the vote of confidence that she will one fine day because that guy asked her to continue till she resolves himself from a disease called lung fibrosis. Now, I came to Bangalore after that and started working. So, one fine day she calls me and tells me that she broke up with him and she wants me in her life but till then I was already committed to some other girl. And she loves me more than anything and even I love her but the trauma I received from the ex couldn't go away and till date I think my girlfriend is cheating on me because of the past trauma from my ex but my girlfriend is an excellent soul but it's getting more tough for me to get out of this trauma. Can you suggest something?
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I gone through the problem. Relationships passed through different stage in life. You are in initial stage of relationship. In this stage such experience is common due to previous trauma. In  this stage emotions play a great roll, that's how trauma has lasting effect.  Best way to resolve this issue is discuss this trust issues with her ( and about your past traumatic experience as well as any type of current relationships with your ex), respect her thought and feeling, and don't be possessive or emotional. Focus on present and future not past. Time will test the stability of relationship.
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Spend more quality time together if possible.
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Respect each other, don't take for granted.
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You are feeling rejected and cheated, betrayed at the same time.. There can be major loss of trust, when your partner is not transparent , hiding withholds basic facts and the process can be emotionally painful so pls Firstly verify facts try to talk about uncertainties you have in your mind before doubting her it can be mentally very draining for your partner to prove her loyalty to you and further damaging to your present relationship. Secondly the most important relationship you have is with yourself and the you need to get of the traumatic experiences in your life, the healing has to begin as your judgements and decisions can be clouded. Thirdly ... the girl you are referring as your ex- who had a boyfriend already and didn’t say yes to you and later came to you when you already have some one in your life, who is your present and to be frank you had no past with this so called “ex”.. you probably just desired her( not clear about that part so need more details to make a judgment) And lastly..I feel you should focus on yourself and your present girlfriend who you say you love her a lot and she loves you there shouldn’t be scope for any ex in your life
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Love can be a place of pure positive energy. If you have experienced coming from someone, it’s very precious and try to retain it.
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An appointment with the Therapist asap
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This is Adjustment Disorder Probably.
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In my opinion you need consultation.
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Start Brisk walking for 45 minutes and join Gym if possible
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Hi! I understand the predicament you are in. Emotional baggage from a previous failed relationship is quite common to be carried forward if not resolved effectively. My advice to you at this point is to look at your relationship from a third persons point of view, try to see if your actions in your current relationship are rational. These issues are usually tricky to handle, and you may consult a clinical psychologist or a psychiatrist for a short couple therapy or individual therapy to address your concerns in a safe place.
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You need to resolve trauma Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online
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You are into Rigid Mindset because one of your Highest Belief, value and needs has been suppressed. Some Negative and Unresourseful Triggers is taking you to this Repetitive pattern of Thought and Behaviours.
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You may Consult any Psychotherapist like me to help you to Identify the Root cause and fix it so that You can move on and lead a fulfilling life ahead with more Harmony.
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