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People advise not to give up on relationships so easily and that problems are present in every relationship. But, till what point should we not give up and tolerate things patiently? I am sinking into immense depression day by day with work pressure and a 6 year old relationship that's becoming toxic day by day. I feel like walking out but I am scared of consequences on our families ( future marriage is in the talks already, families are happy with our union and want us to get engaged in 2-3 years) . I love my partner and will have the hardest time moving on from him if I break up. But it's taking a toll on my mental health and work life as well...I cry more often than laugh with him. It's long distance currently and lack of adjustments and understanding from his side in anything is making it extremely difficult for me . It's been going on for more than a year and I am scared we will end up in a bad unhappy marriage if he doesn't change  and continue being stubborn and narcissist.
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hi please consult any professional and seek counselling sessions
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Hi You have been in a relationship for six years and you want to make it work. You are not getting much support from your partner. Your family and his family are happy with the relationship. Your concern is you are not getting support from your partner, you feel he is stubborn, and also it is a long-distance relationship. Consult a psychologist and explain about the kind of relationship you have with your partner. With a psychologist you can also talk about long distance relationship. It is important to remember that you are a strong and caring person, and you want to make the relationship work. Seek professional help from a psychologist. Counselling sessions will help you.
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hii it's your life and when you are not happy with your relationship then you should move out of it as it will ruin your future today's back step will not allow you to move forward Firstly talk to your partner about your problem I suggest you to go for counselling and consult psychologist for your problem be free to open up in front of your psychologist so they will help you in a best way You can consult me online
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calm down,  it's your life and your decision so think first about yourself family will support you just need to explain them about your insecurities
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Hi,You are an independent person and an adult.Instead of listening to others,you should decide what is good for you or bad for you.If you are in a toxic relationship it is better to end it.Staying in a toxic relationship can be stressful no matter how long it is.You can consult a psychologist for professional help
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Ok, look at the silver lining here - 1. You are not married yet. It will not be a divorce, just a break up if you chose to do so. 2. It is a long distance relationship - so hopefully there is no physical abuse. (If there is, please get away from the person immediately). We comply to our partners out of love and respect. But we start obeying them out of our need to depend on them. YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE ELSE. Read it again - you cannot change anyone else. You cannot change how your partner behaves with you. You can only change how you respond to him or how you behave. You need to change your behavior. Think deeply about this. Are with the person out of some sort of compulsion? Some need that he is fulfilling? Are you with him because you fell in love with him in the beginning of the relationship, but do not like him anymore - so you feel honorbound to continue to be with him. You are just 23 years old. And the relationship is 6 years old - which means you were 17 when you got together. How well do we understand ourselves when we are 17? You are still very young and there is a lot to discover about yourself yet. So set boundaries around yourself. Communicate politely, respectfully and assertively what kind of behavior you will not tolerate. You have to be very clear about what you will do for this relationship and what you will not. Whatever you cannot - put it across in simple polite assertive words. Only for example - If you cannot stay up late in the night and talk on phone as you have to go to work in the morning, communicate this to your partner and then stick to this. No matter how much he calls, do not take calls after your sleep time. Be polite but assertive. Learn to respect and value yourself - only then you can have a good, mutually respectful relationship with someone else. On the other hand - also evaluate, how much are you expecting from this relationship and is it fair to put so much expectation on a person? Is he being toxic or you have set unreasonable expectations which he is not able to fulfill. Evaluate with a calm mind. You are imagining things which are not happened yet - families have talked about engagement, but you're not engaged yet. You have assumed they will have a bad reaction to the break up, much worse than they actually might. No one wants to see their children unhappy. They might take this more sensibly than you think. Do not assume how they will react. And do not get married because of them. How dumb it would be to marry someone you chose in the first place out of family pressure. Breaking up a long relationship is very hard. We think of the time we have already invested in the person. And I'm not asking you to break up. I'm just saying - do not assume the worse of everything. You are just 23, and there is a long life ahead of you. Work on yourself first. You can only change yourself. Become a happy person and then work on the relationship. Believe me, I can understand what you're going through. And I say this out of personal experience - work on yourself before you work on a relationship.
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Consult a Psychologist as soon as possible. You have to work a lot on yourself first before being engaged or married to anyone.
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Consult for psychological counselling immediately. Remember, getting married is a big decision, and it's important to take the time to address any concerns or issues before taking the plunge. If you have any doubts or concerns, talk to your partner and consider seeking the advice of a professional, psychologist or counselor.
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Remember, managing a long-distance relationship takes effort and commitment from both partners. By communicating regularly, setting realistic expectations, and finding ways to stay connected, you can overcome the challenges and build a strong and healthy relationship.
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Do visit a psychologist cum Pre- Marriage Counselor to get a clarity on the issues you are confused with.
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Hi.. I will be straight and to the point because that's what is needed. You must not get married to him immediately under any pressure, be it of family, societal, or emotional. Marriage is not about Love, please get this thing clear in your mind. It is the media (movies, music, stories, etc.) that tend to condition our mind into believing that marriage is about love. Your spouse is under no obligation to keep you happy. S/he is only obligated to fulfil the social, financial, emotional, sexual, & personal needs of the spouse & family they have raised. Based on what you have said, it seems you have already made up your mind & looking for reasons to rationalize it. It is completely okay to let a relationship go when it is not serving its purpose in your life but it is not okay to blame it on someone else. You can share what you feel with your partner and mutually decide on the future of your relationship. You can also choose to take a break to think more rationally and decide for yourself. In either case your partner is an independent individual who can anytime decide on what he want, or doesn't want. Your struggles in your career is also taking a toll on your mental health and since at some point of time this relationship used to serve as a safe space or a kind of rescue in your psycho-emotional life, you are feeling disappointed when it is no longer serving the same purpose. It is hard to accept our emotions in their crude form but at a latent level this is how they operate. That's why we can't be a slave to our emotions. We need to act based on what is right for ourselves and for those who we say we love.
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Hello, You have developed an intuitive power over your relationship status in the years. Every decision will always have consequences. Your mental calm is invaluable and if there is a price to pay, it can never be more than your peace of mind. All background noises will settle with time.Only you can choose happiness for yourself. Introspect well, contemplate your decision well and do what makes you happy. The good news is that you have got an opportunity to be safe rather than sorry. All relations do not turn bitter, you can decide and make it Better for both of you. All the Best! Happy healthy living.
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