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Fear of rude sounds and voices
I have narc mother and sh has been shouting at me from my birth. I used to tell her not to shout at me but she doesn't care. Nowadays from few months I feel I am getting anxiety or fear whenever I hear something loud with rudeness. Even moving chairs and it's harsh sound hurts me from inside and creates anxiety and fear in my left brain. It takes almost half a day to come of out to me. Rude voices and rude harsh sounds makes to reminds me of my past days with my scolding mom. She used to scold me blame me for everything throughout my life. I also have fear of doing wrong. I used to think like what if mom scold me for bathing late. Or for waking late. Just for each and everything for full day. If I do meditation, it calms me for a while. But again coming out. Please help. I don't have psychatrait help near my location.
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Hi, I believe that you may need Counseling more than medication. Kindly consult some one who really appreciates and understands you for opening up.
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Distraction, Relaxation, and Learning various coping strategies will work well for you.
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Appreciate you to reaching us. All your fears, questions, worries, fear  has to be dealt. Consult psychologist and describe your feelings to us. Consult online therapy for further sessions will help you.
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I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy instead.. You can definitely overcome this issue.. For a detailed discussion and understanding, you can connect with me using the link below :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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I understand your predicament. I would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them and thereby overcome the challenges you are facing right now. I want you to know that you are capable of doing this and can successfully deal with them. Kindly read what follows : Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. Today the mind is fixated on something. Tomorrow it might be on another topic/event/person. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) When elephants are young, they put chains around their feet. Over the years the elephant is conditioned to believe that it is in captivity because it is chained. When the elephant grows up, it can easily break free from the chains, but because of conditioning it remains captive. Similarly, negative thoughts and beliefs born from our past experiences are the chains we believe to be holding us captive. We allow ourselves to remain captive, when actually we are absolutely free. The choice is ours. We can either learn lessons from the past, use it as fuel for our growth or wallow in self-pity, shame and guilt. Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every moment, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.
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