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Need help to understand my feelings
Hi. I am in a relationship with a girl since last 2 years and we have decided to get married. Mine is a healthy relationship and I am very sincere about my feelings for her. We had a strong bond of trust between us. We are also having a healthy sexual relationship. Of late, there were 1-2   times I felt sexually aroused seeing pics of other women dressed up hot. I have no intention of cheating on my gf neither have I fantasized about having sex with another woman. I was not comfortable with my body's reaction. Even though it was a momentary feeling(sexual arousal soon got overtaken by guilt).I opened up this to my gf. Now,she doesn't trust me, she feels like I will cheat on her. Is it a common for a man to have such feelings? if yes, i csn neglect those feelings without any guilt.Or is it any problem with me?  I truly love my gf and can't think about having another woman in my life. please help me, i cant lose my gf because of these feelings i go through.
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I understand your distressful situation. More clarity is needed regarding your problem to decide on the severity of your condition. It may be a natural arousal reaction, however if it is intrusive and you are too distressed, guilty and anxious by it then those thoughts could even be obsessive. Don't worry it is not your fault, it is the hormonal and chemical fluctuations in your brain which is taking a toll on your mental health. It is easily manageable with appropriate treatment, so that dysfunction due to the same can be reduced and your quality of life will improve. Some counselling sessions and if needed medical help might be useful for the both of you. My clinic is at OMR chennai. I would also be more than happy to help you with that if you are looking for online assistance. Discussions will be held confidential. You can directly consult with me through Practo as needed. Online chat consultation is also available.
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It is very natural to have the feelings that you do. Homo sapien brains were never designed to be monogamous. Therefore sexual arousal in the absence of your mate is very natural. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, she should work on her insecurities and accept the fact that arousal does not mean that you’re going to impulsively act on it. You’re not an animal to do that. If she doesn’t work on her insecurity, your relationship will have problems in the future.
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Go for relationship Counseling for 2 sessions atleast
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