Extreme Solitude. Get over that person?

Hi, We need to look at deeper concerns here as to have you not been able to make friends ever or have you not been able to maintain relationship. The need for belonging is very human.

You can consult me on Practo and we can work out to help you relieve yourself of this stress and build positive relationships.

You need to forget her, try to stay happy with your family and friends. You can do yoga and meditation. Do whatever you want or you fell happy. You can also take councelling session.

Hi if you need someone to talk about ur past and present disturbance. Here you can talk to psychologist. It would be helpful to deal with it. I recommend u to explore ur feelings, thoughts with therapist. Feel free to consult me online.

Thanks for reaching out for help. The world is a huge place with a lot of people to share various aspects of our life with. A broken relationship can sometimes make us averse towards opening up to new people in our life. It can also, like in your case make you imagine something that might be unreal. You need to expand your circle so that you share your thoughts and feelings with more people.

Please book an online appointment with me or any counselling psychologist who can help you look at what you are going through with an unbiased mindset. This will help you forge new bonds with people thereby ending your loneliness.

Please remember that we are all individuals at the core and we need to be able to deal with solitude with open arms and not get sucked into the loneliness bubble. Handling your past with an open and positive mindset with help from a professional like myself can alleviate your negative feelings.

Your words seem to express that you feel lonely often. We all need someone to talk to and feel connected to. Maybe there is a need to work on your social support system. This will not only help you to have friends to talk but also will prevent you to end up imagining true love with everyone. The high need of belongings can make us vulnerable towards any potential love relationship.

Slowly strengthen your social support. It might be difficult to find someone at once. But start somewhere- talk or meet old friends. It will help!

This is based the information you have provided. It would be helpful to understand more aspects of disturbed family & other relationships in your life. These can be playing a major role in how you perceive relationships!

Hi Seeing a psychologist/therapist may be the best thing for you. You will get a person you can talk to, but also someone who is a professional, understands human psyche and interpersonal relations and the impact they have on us, and better yet, will be no. Judgmental toward you Sharing/connecting with others is an essential component of a healthy human experience. Its alright if currently you have no friends, you could use this time to actually heal yourself and then work on developing positive relationships in your life.

you can contact me, or any other therapist if you wish to.

Don't delay reaching out to someone.

Hey Talk about it to a mental health professional You need to sort out your thoughts before getting into any relationship You need to get in a relationship as an add on not dependancy Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online All the best :)

Hi, Do understand your problem. Appreciate that you realized not having a friend to talk, someone broke your heart last year and left with yourself. Its quite natural to fall for a person when we need someone badly to talk. Its a right time you take professional assistance to come out your problem and live a happy life.

(1) Start initiating to talk with people especially from your home (2) Meet new people and have a general conversation (3) Start loving yourself and others

I understand your predicament. Relationships undoubtedly enrich the quality of our lives. To love and be loved is indeed one of the most rewarding experiences that life offers. Nevertheless, it is primarily essential to ensure one's psychological and physical well being just like how a strong foundation is that component of a building that is built first. Once you are truly secure within, friendships and healthy relationships are a natural consequence as you engage with the world. Here are a few suggestions that could help you : Awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated will help you overcome the challenges you are facing right now. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Today the mind might be fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be another topic/event/person. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You may either have thoughts about the past or the future. This keeps alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. Just like how the clothes you are wearing right now are yours, but not you, thoughts that you experience from time to time are yours, but not you. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, we may still find shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. When you repeatedly focus on a thought ( that springs from a belief that you have and which is threatening or disturbing by nature ) the corresponding emotion rises in your brain. It overpowers your capability to think rationally. The cycle repeats and you feel imprisoned by your own thoughts and emotions. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Usually when we experience disturbing thoughts, we may tend to fight, resist or control them. But fighting a thought is like fighting a shadow. You can see it, but it's not real. Fighting a thought or emotion only gives it more power. Say for instance, when someone asks you not to think of a pink elephant, the first thought that invariably comes to you is that of a pink elephant. Instead, what we can do is, learning to be a distant observer of thoughts ( that are only based on past experiences and hence are no longer true or relevant today or do not serve your highest good ) and not act on them. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. Here is a breathing exercise that could help you : You may do this in the night too once you have finished with your tasks for the day : Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this ten times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine. Gently massage the back of your neck and the base of the skull when you lie down to rest. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world. What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world? Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs. Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of the kind of feedback you received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. 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