Reluctant to have sex. A lot of effort.

Hi there, It's absolutely fine if you are not having sexual urges... Nothing wrong with you... If you are physically fit and donot have any physical ailment Thank God for keeping you healthy... Sometimes, when mind is occupied with some matters connected to our life, whether job, work, relationship, agony, anything may be and mind is in that state for a long time, there won't be any sexual urges... It's only when you start desiring about it, that catches your senses.... Otherwise it's very normal if you are not interested in sex... Stay happy, Be productive and stay health... But, then if you feel something abnormal about your own self which you are not able to figure it out, then consult a male psychiatrist who will go for a thorough check up for you... Enjoy your life.. Take care...

It's important to make the distinction here that has this been an issue for a while, or is this recent? If you're generally disinterested in sex, that could be simply due to your sexual orientation being asexual - which is totally fine, and there is nothing wrong with it. However, if you've seen a noticeable change in libido (sex drive) then there could be two major reasons for it - either there's an issue with your physical fitness (diet+excercise+alcohol/smoking/drug use); or it's due to psychological distress (stress, anxiety, depression) which is usually the more common reason. Ideally, it's best to first consult a General Physician before talking to specialists, as there may be a lot of different reasons for this. Your GP may also prescribe medication for ED if they feel it's not a major issue - which is, again, fairly common. If you find that it is due to psychological distress, therapy is certainly the best option. Mindfulness based therapy may be especially helpful.

Consult a General Physician.

Don't get too worried. Approaching 30s, men normally do have a change in testosterone levels, and ED is a common side effect of it. Most likely, you'll just need a bit of change in your lifestyle and a bit of psychotherapy - and it should be okay. But, first and foremost, get it cleared by a GP.

There could be many reasons for not having sexual feelings which includes traumatic past experience or childhood sexual abuse,disturbed interpersonal relationship with your partner, excessive stress, performance pressure and poor time management etc.

you need to do proper consultanion with licencend Clinical Psychologist who can understand nature and cause of problem and provide applicable Psychotherapies.

take all physical check-ups on priority to rule out cause of the problem. Psychologically you need to be positive and try to avoid fearful thinking related to sexual activities. Proper sex education is also required to get clarity on myths related to the issue.

Thanks for Sharing your issue. It takes lots of guts! There could be other reasons to go through this. I would suggest you to take help from Sexologist near you.