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I think i am in a relationship with a narcissist for 3 yrs, family is also involved. He has cheated on me too, but after 1 month of another relationship he came back and many ups and down have happened after that. I can neither be with him happily nor breakup with him. I really care about him. And also know that he doesn't even show any care or empathy towards me. Everyone says that breaking up with him would be only better option but i am too much emotionally involved in him that i don't feel okay whenever i stop talking to him. Is there any way to improve him, i too m okay if any improvement in me is required as well as my relationship. Because i really think that i have invested myself too much into him that backing off from him feel worse than anything. Also, i tried to be with him but his behaviors non-caring attitude, smoking, drinking, lieing on meaningless small topics, not planning ahead or if he plans he doesn't work on them. Kindly, listen to me and help me! Thankyou!!
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Thank you for sharing. Please reach out to a psychologist to discuss further.
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Hello, I am ready to listen to you and support you to overcome this issue... You can reach me by using the link given below :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Here are a few suggestions that could be helpful : While acknowledging the fact that thoughts related to any action contrary to the care and compassion that you feel toward your friend might seem like going against your basic nature, there could be a few things that need to be addressed within you before figuring out the steps ahead. Once you do this, rest assured that you will be able to make the right choice and decisions. Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is most often based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world. What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world/others? What are your beliefs on what a healthy relationship looks and feels like? Are there any beliefs that prevent you from trusting yourself enough to make the right choices and decisions? Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs. Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of some of the feedback you might have received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow. As you go about your daily routine, simply observe the thoughts that you experience from time to time. Without judging them, labeling them or responding to them. This will give you insight regarding those beliefs that need to be addressed. Following is a breathing exercise that could help you : You may do this in the night once you have finished with your tasks for the day : Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this ten times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine. Here are a few links that could be helpful : https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41642 https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41639 Step One https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41640 Step Two https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41641 Step Three https://fit.practo.com/#!/content/41645 Step Four Take care.
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Yes.. I understand.. Very clearly. I have experience with these kind of people. So I can relate easily. The first thing you must ask to your self. Do you want to marry a cheater?? Smoker?? Drinker??  Energy vampires?? Reasons doesn't matter. LISTEN TO THEIR ACTIONS.. NOT THE WORDS COMING FROM THEIR MOUTH. These people are dangerously attractive. Will make you feel guilty for every thing. Will make you responsible for their happiness.. It's an impossible task.. So it's tough.  In the long run,  you can't be with a man or woman like this..
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I know breaking up is tough and will be painful for few months. living together is more painful for many years.. choice is yours.. As a last chance bring him to counselling to me.  if he is not willing to come then I'm sure he is not willing to change himself for you.. keep this as test..
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you can get into a serious relationship which means digging your own grave.
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